Lifestyle: Falling in Love Young

Long-time readers of my blog will know the story of my relationship, but here’s a recap. Me and W met at the age of 16, when I moved to the local Boy’s school for Sixth Form. We got together around three weeks after first speaking, and that was it. Although we went our separate ways to university, we stayed together – travelling up and down the country every other weekend. And during our final year, just before Christmas, he got down on one knee.

 photo Falling in Love_zpssvs7l1p1.jpgSo that’s it. I fell in love at the age of 16. Even if I didn’t know it at the time (spoiler alert – I didn’t). Obviously I wouldn’t change what we have for the world, but falling in love at a young age isn’t easy. Sure, it’s nice to know you’ve found your soulmate already, but there’s the tough bits too…

“You’re Too Young”, “You Don’t Know What Love Is”

If I’m truly honest, I actually didn’t hear this nearly as much as I would have imagined. I did have a lot of people assume we wouldn’t manage to stay together throughout university, including one lovely piece of super-helpful advice – that we split up, then get back together after it. Oh, and the comment about the ‘unexpected surprise’ when we announced our engagement. No, no I did not (and do not!) have a bun in the oven…

I guess I kind of understand. Both of us can pretty much pinpoint the day we realised this was ‘it’ for us – and that day was nearly three years into our relationship. The “I love yous” we spoke after just eight weeks had little of the meaning they do now, despite us meaning it at the time. However I do remember thinking that something was different, the night we got together. No matter how young you are, I think you’ll always remember the first kiss with your future husband.

You Grow Up Together (or Grow Apart)

We’ve definitely grown up since we met – and we knew that we would inevitably grow together or apart. No matter how in love you are as a teenager, I do think there is still the chance of growing apart. I’m not the same girl I was at 16, W isn’t the same guy. I know couples who were just as good as us back in sixth form who just grew in different directions, developed different priorities. And that’s fine.

You’ll Be Useless At Dating Advice

This is something I actually found quite tough – I feel a little bit excluded in girly conversations as I have very little relationship experience. I met a boy, dated said boy, will marry the same boy, done. Yes, I’m lucky in that I’ve never had my heart broken or any major relationship drama, but it’s rendered me pretty much useless at advising my friends.

Also, I have no idea how you meet people in your twenties. I’m technically of Tinder generation but I don’t know how to use the thing…I have no idea of the ‘rules.’ How soon should you sleep together? When do you introduce them to the parents? What about your wider family? Sidenote: we met each other’s parents before getting together, and he met my grandparents after a month. And my entire family by three months in.
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You Still Get to Experience Life, Just Together

Falling in love has never, ever stopped either of us from doing what we wanted. We both did the undergraduate degrees we wanted, at the university we wanted. We’ve graduated. W is doing his Master’s in “Inventing Stuff” (and you can help his Solo Project out by taking filling in this short form on “Sharing Your Struggle“) whilst I’m working in my dream job. We’ll be looking into getting our first dog in hopefully not too many years. We’re doing the travelling we want to do (UK and Europe based). He watches the golf and snooker *snores* and I watch crime dramas and Disney. I buy too many clothes, he wears jeans with pen strains and holes. We’re still our own people, we just muddle through life together.
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You’ll Have a Hilarious Bank of Photos

Yay for planning an ’embarrassing photo wall’ at your wedding. Whilst I don’t think I’ve changed that much since I was sixteen (just worked out how to style my hair!), he looks SO different. I’m surprised he hasn’t had his ID rejected yet…

I will also add it’s painful for me to share this photo. It just makes me cringe!

Your First Dates Won’t Be That Romantic

After McDonald’s lunch with friends and a few hours of MSN chat, our first ‘date’ (the week before we got together) was to Pizza Express. It was raining heavily and he whacked me round the face with a soggy umbrella. Most of our dates were Friday evenings spent alternating at each other’s houses, with the occasional trip to Nandos.

 photo 2016-02-14 15.21.08_zpssj2k95vo.jpgBut above all, falling in love has been fun. We got to know each other without any pressures, no tick-tocking of a biological clock, no desire to settle down. We were able to be ourselves at university, not too closely attached to each other – but there for the other at the end of the phone. I get more years to share with my soulmate. And above all else? I have excellent evidence of the embarrassing moments of his later teens. Though I’m sure he can say the same, so I won’t be sharing…

Did you fall in love at a young age, even if it didn’t last?

  • Such a cute story! One of my best friends met her boyfriend when we were 14 so it’s crazy to think that they have been together for over half of her life (we’re 29 now and they have two children!). I think it’s so nice to have go to know someone slowly without the pressures that are just *there* as a, ahem, slightly older person – my main obstacle to dating now is that I feel like I spend most of my life in the office! x

  • Siobhan Rothwell

    Loved reading this! I feel like it’s so rare to meet the one at a young age now, whilst both my grandparents met before they were 18 and are still in love.

    I’ve been with my boyfriend since we were 18, 5 years now! And I honestly think we’re more in love than ever. Despite four years of long distance, four degrees and jobs in between, it still feels like we only just started dating!

    x
    http://www.siobhanrothwell.com

  • Aww, this is so cute! I think that relationships that start at an early age are worthy of the utmost respect – I don’t think I would be able to do it (then again I haven’t had the experience so I can’t comment). It’s great that you both were still able to do what you love without sacrificing and overly compromising, and I think that’s one of the major factors that makes or break a relationship.

    Cherie ✿ sinonym

  • Just found your blog and this post was so lovely to read! I haven’t been too lucky in love myself sadly, but my sister fell in love with her husband when she was 14 –
    both were the classic high school sweethearts and they’re still together after 8 years! Thanks for sharing 🙂 x

    Evelyn @ We Were Raised By Wolves

  • I think it’s amazing that you fell in love so young and it worked out. I met my first boyfriend at 15 (am 22 now) and it went on for 4 and a half amazing years. I wouldn’t change anything from my life back then. When I moved to the UK to go to uni, the distance was too big for that time in our lives so we broke up. It was probably the hardest thing I have ever been through but I came out of it stronger and happy that I didn’t force something that wasn’t meant to be. It seems that your relationship is meant to be and so there is nothing wrong with missing out on girly date talks. We laugh a lot but we would all trade our awful date stories for the bond you have.

    Love has no age and can arrive at any time! So happy for you xx