Wedding “Planning”: Planning the Planning

Or, how many times can we repeat a single word in a blog post title…

 photo Planning the Planning 1_zpsjplm0eat.jpgWhilst I really want to talk and chat about all things wedding on here, I’m a little reluctant for one or two reasons. Firstly, it’s our special day, and do I really want all the details splashed over the internet? Probably not! Secondly, we’re planning an Autumnal wedding in 2018. I’m not sure even I could stretch out wedding content to cover 2.5 years of blog posts!

What I have decided to do, however, is blog occasionally about weddings. I’ve got a few ideas for some rather more ‘tongue-in-cheek’ posts – things like “what they don’t tell you about getting engaged” and even some guest posts from my other half! The first is a brief chat on what we’ve made a start on whilst ‘planning our wedding planning.’

The Cake

Both of us being keen bakers, this was obviously the first thing we thought about. In an ideal world we really want to bake our own wedding cake. In reality we’re not too sure if we fancy the stress of doing that! We’re definitely thinking of staying traditional with the look (no cupcakes for us, thank you very much!), but steering away from traditional with the flavours. Does anyone actually enjoy the usual fruit wedding cake?!

(EDIT: Will objected most strongly here – saying he actually does like fruit cake…)
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The Filofax

Of course planning such a big thing requires it’s very own organiser, and what better to choose than a nude Filofax?! I’ve been after this one for a good while now (I even have the matching satchel – priorities right?!) so getting engaged gave me the perfect excuse. It’s now getting full of magazine rip-outs, but I plan to give it a good proper sort-out soon. I’m planning on filling my wedding planner with receipts, budgets, inspiration – anything and everything!

The ‘Maybe’ Guest List

In all seriousness, one of the first things we were advised to do was write a rough guest list. This meant we were able to quickly rule out venues that were too small or (more often for us) too big. We now know roughly how many people we are likely to be inviting so, as long as neither of us suddenly gets popular, we can go ahead and start visiting some shortlisted venues once university is done and dusted!
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The Dress

Ah, the most important outfit of my life. I’ll be writing more about trying on dresses in a few weeks, so I won’t say too much here…but… I was torn between wanting to try alllll the dresses after getting engaged, and waiting a bit longer. I did go and try on some (5 or 6 I believe, one drizzly January afternoon) and in reality I’m still on the fence about it. I’m glad I got to experience it, it actually really improved my body confidence (I actually looked damn good in some of them), I know what I’m looking for now. But equally I’m worried I did it too soon, especially as I’m really quite taken with a dress that’s likely to be discontinued this year…

The Wedding Fairs

So, apparently these are a thing?! I obviously knew about more local ones, where venues get in a ton of ‘preferred suppliers’ but a national wedding show was something I did now know about, and in all honesty the thought terrifies me. Even so this weekend that’s exactly where me and W will be – wandering around the NEC courtesy of Debenhams to discover all things wedding. Here’s where we come back with everything booked and ready to go…

 photo Planning the Planning 7_zps4ejkjnej.jpgSo, that’s how our planning is going. We’ve got bookmarks of places we want to visit, we’ve got a rough guest list, I have a Pinterest board of approximately 2000 dresses. And we’re off to experience the slightly scary-sounding world of wedding fairs. Wish us luck!

Do you have any advice for planning a wedding? What should we be doing?! 

  • One of my best friends from childhood just got married and she had cupcakes at her wedding. It was the one thing I questioned, why not cake?! It’s cake!!
    Erin | http://www.erinelizabethmiller.com

    • ninegrandstudent

      Yep, I’m definitely a cake person! x

  • Jennifer K

    When I was at school, our RE project in year eight or nine was to plan our own weddings!!! I wish I still had my final project to look back on when the time comes for me to plan my wedding – only to see how much things have changed since I was 13. Good luck with all your planning 🙂
    Jennifer x
    Ginevrella | Lifestyle Blog

    • ninegrandstudent

      I would have loved to do this! x

  • If I get married one day, I would think first about the cake as well ! Lol
    Alexandra
    http://littlefrenchblog.blogspot.fr

    • ninegrandstudent

      Aha, definitely got priorities right! x

  • This post is so exciting! And I love that Filofax so much, I need an excuse to buy another one! Maybe I should start hinting to the boyfriend 😛

    Hannah xx | http://www.hannahemilylane.com
    P.S I looove fruit wedding cake haha, but I’m aware I’m definitely in the minority…

    • ninegrandstudent

      Aha, definitely wasn’t an excuse for a new filofax… x

  • Clare Purdy

    I tried on dresses as soon as I got engaged (in one shop with my sister in law) but as I knew I didn’t want to commit yet and hadn’t sorted out what my dress budget was, as nice as they all were I didn’t really pay much attention or consider any of them.. i therefore didn’t go back to that shop! I recommend even if you do try on and discount a shop because you’re in the same boat I was… go back! I found my dream dress in the next shop I visited (with a budget and mum) so didn’t really get the experience a lot of people love!

    hitched.co.uk became my lifeline too late, i’d already booked everything! highly recommend joining soon the forums are fab and SO helpful (also for sale forums are great for bargains)

    • ninegrandstudent

      Yep, I tried on back in January and ultimately found the designer of my dream dress – pretty much all decided now and we still haven’t set a date, oops! x

  • Oh my gosh, where do I start?

    First, I am (slowly) beginning to write my wedding posts for my blog soon, so you’ll be able to be nosy and steal any ideas you want from there when they’re finally up!
    Don’t bake your own cake! Trust me, as a bride the week before the wedding you’d go to make the same trusty wedding cake you’d practised a million times before but it would all go wrong, leading to a mad panic and probably lots of tears. The week before my wedding found me crying my eyes out over not being able to attach two PDFs to an email. Something I have no problem with at all other points of my life. 4
    I agree with the flavours thing though, we went with carrot, lemon and red velvet, and it went down really well. Also, one of the best parts of wedding planning is eating all the free cake from cake makers. The lady we booked to make our cake sent us 12 huge cupcakes in order to sample her flavours. Incredible.
    At this far in advance I’d say have a look for your venue and photographer. They’re the things which get booked up ridiculously far in advance, and once you have your venue, as soon as you spot any other little things you can book them no problem.

    I’m always around on twitter/email for a chat about wedding things and if you ever need advice I’m here!

    Rachel x
    The Inelegant Wench

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