Wedding Planning: Losing Weight for your Wedding

Warning, a little bit of a ranty post ahead!

One thing I noticed at the National Wedding Show a few weeks back was the quite intense pressure on brides to lose weight. And this really annoyed me. I’m all for ladies being healthy and happy with their bodies, don’t get me wrong I’m determined to ‘look my best’ on my (still undetermined!) wedding day. But why should I be pressured into believing that ‘my best’ is me minus five pounds?

To me, ‘best’ is glowing skin, glowing with the happiness that I’m marrying my soulmate, signing up to spend the rest of my life with my best friend. It’s a wedding dress that suits my body, curves and imperfections included. It’s about trying (and most likely failing) to keep my hair tidy. It’s about making the most about my best features, but not about changing myself.

It’s one day. And I want to look like myself on that one day.

I can see that people who are perhaps unhappy about their weight prior to getting engaged use their wedding as motivation (if I hadn’t have lost so much weight last year it would definitely work for me). I completely understand that for some women, looking their best on their big day does involve losing some weight. And that’s fine.

 photo The National Wedding Show 6_zpsz9cb0lnu.jpgWhat I don’t agree with is the pressure from the wedding industry. My goodie bag haul from the day consisted of 3 types of diet cereal bar, an instant 97 calories Spaghetti Bolognese (which, according to my housemates, was inedibly vile), vouchers for other ‘low fat ready meals’ and a handful of meal replacement shakes. I overheard a lot of brides being told they were ‘too big’ to try on dress samples. Whilst I am small (and actually had the opposite experience – the one time I’ve tried on dresses they had to be clipped onto me), hearing something like that totally put me off even browsing the dress stalls.

Having seen what I look like in wedding dresses, I know that I don’t want to lose any more weight – turns out I’m more petite than I thought! I do want to tone up, something I’ve said for a while, but am I going to turn down a burger lunch for the sake of a wedding dress? Hell no!

 photo The National Wedding Show 7_zpsajkjhsp5.jpgMaybe, having always been sensitive about my weight and perhaps a little obsessive over weight loss, I’ve been over emotional about this. I’ve never seen any bride look ‘fat’ – the focus is always on how gorgeously happy they look. I do believe that, in industries including weddings, too much pressure is put on women to be thinner…and I’m not a fan of it.

Do you think there’s too much pressure in society for ‘weight loss’ and perfect bodies?

  • You’re so right – it’s such a shame. And you very rarely hear of men being told the same thing – that they need to slim down for their suits. I’m so sick of this concept that we need to be thin to be beautiful; surely if your fiancé has proposed, they want to marry you – not a smaller or thinner version, unless you’ll be happier that way.
    I hope life is sunny where you are!
    Lx |

    • ninegrandstudent

      Exactly – I completely agree with you! x

  • you look so beautiful and i dont think you should lose more weight. media has a warped sense and standard of what is beautiful. beautiful is subjective. just be healthy 🙂

    • ninegrandstudent

      Thank you so much my lovely! x

  • Clare Purdy

    I got married at my biggest. In fact I put on over a stone between getting engaged and getting married! Do i regret it? NO! I loved how I looked in my dress, however there are a few less than flattering photos around (a bit of a roll over the back of my dress from bad angles etc) which I wish weren’t in existence! Would I have felt better if id lost weight first? possibly when looking at my pictures… but on the day I felt fab! I was more concerned with the fact that the internal elasticated waist on my dress allowed no room for food so by the time i’d had a 3 course meal breathing became an issue!

    • ninegrandstudent

      You have such a good outlook on it all – thanks for the positivity! x

  • It’s so sad that this pressure exists – as you say, it’s one day, and while I understand that women want to look their best on their wedding day, that doesn’t mean they should feel like they need to lose weight. It also pisses me off that this message is only ever really aimed at women, it’s ridiculous! You’re going to be a beautiful bride, and I think it’s wonderful that you’ve drawn attention to this issue 🙂 xx


    • ninegrandstudent

      Thank you so much my lovely! x

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